Tiada siapa tahu apa akan terjadi di masa akan datang..tiada siapa tahu apa yang akan dilalui di hadapan..segala-galanya adalah rahsia Allah s.w.t. Sungguh ajaib. Rahmat dan hidayah Allah s.w.t. amat menakjubkan..siapa yang mendapatnya pasti tidak mahu melepaskannya..segalanya berjalan dengan pantas..sedetik hati dipaling..tidak perlu meminta izin pun dari jasadnya. bermakna diri ini bukan kepunyaan diri sendiri..ianya milik ilahi..diri sendiri tiada kuasa atas diri sendiri..subhanallah..
Segala-galanya dilalui dengan tenang. Allah sentiasa ada..di mana-mana. Yakin itu..yakin...Yakin..tenang walau tanpa teman..tenang walau tanpa kawan..bersendirian amat tenang..barulah tahu erti ,bersendirian adalah terbaik,. Hati terasa dimiliki satu kuasa..kuasa yang tiada tandingannya..bila telah dekat dengannya..bila telah dipegang olehnya..hati dan jiwa meronta-ronta untuk mensyukurinya..di manakah perasaan itu 10 tahun yang lalu..20 tahun yang lalu..tercari-cari..lepas satu satu dosa dan noda dilalui..masih tidak hadir perasaan itu..alhamdulillah..jawapan telah diterima. Kasih telah tersemai..amat bersyukur..alhamdulillah..inshaallah..
Thursday, July 3, 2014
Friday, June 25, 2010
Dicipline
What do we know?
1. A loving attitude, clear rules and applying the consequences that were stated will encourage the development of positive behaviors in children
2. When the parent behaves in this way, the child is encourages to explore his environment while respecting certain limits
3. An enthusiastic parent who gives his child the opportunity to do fun things and be successful will give him confidence and will encourage him to explore his environment
4. Respecting each child's personality, parents should apply discipline that is not too authoritarian and not too permissive, so that the child will obey instruction
5. Children who are too tightly controlled will have trouble making decisions and expressing their needs
6. On the other hand, children who are allowed to do anything they want will have trouble knowing what is acceptable and what isn't
7. Good discipline leads to success in school and the ability to make friends
1. A loving attitude, clear rules and applying the consequences that were stated will encourage the development of positive behaviors in children
2. When the parent behaves in this way, the child is encourages to explore his environment while respecting certain limits
3. An enthusiastic parent who gives his child the opportunity to do fun things and be successful will give him confidence and will encourage him to explore his environment
4. Respecting each child's personality, parents should apply discipline that is not too authoritarian and not too permissive, so that the child will obey instruction
5. Children who are too tightly controlled will have trouble making decisions and expressing their needs
6. On the other hand, children who are allowed to do anything they want will have trouble knowing what is acceptable and what isn't
7. Good discipline leads to success in school and the ability to make friends
Getting Your Toddler To Listen
1. Toddlers are just like the rest of us - they don't always listen
2. At their age, they need you to teach them how to pay attention
3. But what often happen?? Is that parent say something 10 times, then they start counting down to punishment. What this does is actually condition the child not to listen until the tenth time
4. By not listen, your child is getting your attention (though constant nagging isn't the best form of it)
5. Being a good listener help your child learn more effectively, heed danger signals, get along better with you and her teachers and other adults she'll be expected respect and make a better friends.
6. It's never too early to begin teaching your child. A toddler may not listen as well as a 5 years old but she still has a lots of these skills.
7. Get on her level
-Squat down or pick your child up, so you can look her in the eye and grab her attention
-She'll listen much more closely if you sit down next to her.
8. Be clear
-State your message clearly, simply and authoritatively
-Your child will zone out if you harp a topic too long
-Don't phrase something as a question if your child doesn't actually have a choice
9. Follow though-quickly
-Make it clear that you mean what you say and don't make threats or promises - you won' keep
-Don't fall into the trap of repeating less urgent instruction over and over again before expecting your child to comply
10. Reinforce your message
-Example : Say 'time for bed' and then give a visual cue (flicking the light switch on and off), a physical cue (laying a hand on her shoulder to gently pull her attention away from her doll and toward you) and a demonstration (steering her toward her bed, pulling down the covers and patting the pillow)
11. Give warnings
-Give your child some advance notice before a big change will take place, especially if she's happily involved with toys or a friends
-Example : before you're ready to leave the house, tell her 'We're going to leave in a few minutes. When i call you. it's time to come out of the sandbox and wash your hands'
12 Give realistic instructions
-Example : give him realistic tasks like 'let's put the yellow blocks away.' etc
13. Motivate
-Yelling orders may produce results (in some children) but no one will enjoy the process
-Most children respond best when you treat them with confident good humor.
-Example : Occasionally use a silly voice or a song to deliver your message
-Praise her when she finishes the activities
14 Model good behavior
-Preschoolers will be better listener if they see that you are a good listener too
Make it habit to listen to your child as respectfully as you would to any adults
-Look at her when she talk to you, respond politely and let her finish without interrupting whenever possible
-'Do as i say, no do as i do' - has no value when teaching your children to listen
2. At their age, they need you to teach them how to pay attention
3. But what often happen?? Is that parent say something 10 times, then they start counting down to punishment. What this does is actually condition the child not to listen until the tenth time
4. By not listen, your child is getting your attention (though constant nagging isn't the best form of it)
5. Being a good listener help your child learn more effectively, heed danger signals, get along better with you and her teachers and other adults she'll be expected respect and make a better friends.
6. It's never too early to begin teaching your child. A toddler may not listen as well as a 5 years old but she still has a lots of these skills.
7. Get on her level
-Squat down or pick your child up, so you can look her in the eye and grab her attention
-She'll listen much more closely if you sit down next to her.
8. Be clear
-State your message clearly, simply and authoritatively
-Your child will zone out if you harp a topic too long
-Don't phrase something as a question if your child doesn't actually have a choice
9. Follow though-quickly
-Make it clear that you mean what you say and don't make threats or promises - you won' keep
-Don't fall into the trap of repeating less urgent instruction over and over again before expecting your child to comply
10. Reinforce your message
-Example : Say 'time for bed' and then give a visual cue (flicking the light switch on and off), a physical cue (laying a hand on her shoulder to gently pull her attention away from her doll and toward you) and a demonstration (steering her toward her bed, pulling down the covers and patting the pillow)
11. Give warnings
-Give your child some advance notice before a big change will take place, especially if she's happily involved with toys or a friends
-Example : before you're ready to leave the house, tell her 'We're going to leave in a few minutes. When i call you. it's time to come out of the sandbox and wash your hands'
12 Give realistic instructions
-Example : give him realistic tasks like 'let's put the yellow blocks away.' etc
13. Motivate
-Yelling orders may produce results (in some children) but no one will enjoy the process
-Most children respond best when you treat them with confident good humor.
-Example : Occasionally use a silly voice or a song to deliver your message
-Praise her when she finishes the activities
14 Model good behavior
-Preschoolers will be better listener if they see that you are a good listener too
Make it habit to listen to your child as respectfully as you would to any adults
-Look at her when she talk to you, respond politely and let her finish without interrupting whenever possible
-'Do as i say, no do as i do' - has no value when teaching your children to listen
Sunday, May 30, 2010
Kecantikan Perkahwinan
Kita sering kaitkan cantik itu dengan kecantikan luaran terutamanya. Cantik rupa, tubuh badan, hati , jiwa, akhlak dan tingkah laku. Tetapi kita sering lupa bahawa kecantikan itu sangat luas ertinya. Saya suka kaitkan kecantikan ini dengan dunia perkahwinan. Wanita dan perkahwinan adalah simbol kecantikan di dunia ini. Uhhh!!! Bangganya saya. Bayangkan, antara wanita yang belum berkahwin dengan wanita yang sudah berkahwin, apa bezanya? Terlalu banyak bezanya...Kalau nak dilihat dari segi fizikal, lihat sajalah wajah wanita yang telah berumahtangga, sungguh berseri. Belum lagi di lihat dari bentuk tubuhnya dan juga perilakunya. Semuanya manis. Sebab semuanya mendapat keberkatan dari suaminya. Kecantikan isteri pun memerlukan keberkatan suami tau..ermm, barulah awet muda sentiasa. Itu belum lagi ditambah dengan adanya anak-anak. Kecantikan wanita akan lebih bertambah-tambah. Lihatlah wajah wanita yang bergelar ibu. Serinya lain dari wanita-wanita yang lain. Walaupun tanggungjawabnya berat tetapi keikhlasan, kejujuran dan keredhaan yang dimiliki dan diluahkan sewaktu melaksanakan segala tanggungjawabnya itu menyerlahkan segala kecantikan yang dimiliki.
Memang tak dinafikan, ada wanita yang sengsara sepanjang melalui alam perkahwinan mereka. Tetapi semuanya adalah ketentuan Allah buat kita. Ketabahan dan keredhaan itulah yang akan menenggelamkan segala kedukaan dan memancarkan segala kecantikan dalaman seorang wanita. Walau diuji seberat manapun, kesabaran adalah milik wanita. Itulah diantara kecantikan wanita dalam alam perkahwinan mereka.
Wanita, wanita.....di dalam alam perkahwinan ini sememangnya banyak lagi penerokaan yang harus dilakukan. Banyak lagi ruang yang perlu diisi. Banyak lagi emosi yang perlu dijelajahi. Suami...segala-galanya dalam dunia isteri. Jadikanlah suami sebagai teman yang paling setia dan paling karib dalam hidup kita. Lihatlah suami bukan sebagai hak milik kekal kita. Lihatlah sang suami sebagai penilai kita di dunia ini. Individu yang akan menilai segala tingkah laku dan personaliti kita sebagai wanita. Indahnya kita sebagai isteri maka cantiklah segala alam rumahtangga itu. Keraplah menilai kembali diri sendiri sebagai wanita, isteri dan ibu dalam perkahwinan. Iye la..kadang kala suami menilai dan memberi teguran yang melampau-lampau terhadap diri kita. Banyak yang tak kena terutamanya di awal usia perkahwinan. Tetapi wanita yang bijak akal fikirannya dan cantik hati dan jiwanya, akan tahu caranya untuk menangani segala teguran walaupun kadangkala teguran itu amat menyakitkan hati. Kan sudah diketahui, kesabaran yang teramat itu ada dalam diri seorang wanita berbanding lelaki. Jadi terokailah sikap sabar itu. Cari ia dalam diri kita sebagai seorang wanita.
Jadikanlah segala cabaran dalam perkahwinan itu sebagai pengalaman dan ilmu pengetahuan yang Allah berikan. Tiada pengalaman yang lebih bermakna selain dari apa yang Allah dah tentukan kepada kita. Terimalah segalanya dengan redha, sabar, ikhlas dan jujur semata-mata untuk mendapat keberkatan dari suami dan juga dariNYA. InsyaAllah...kecantikan perkahwinan itu akan terserlah...
Memang tak dinafikan, ada wanita yang sengsara sepanjang melalui alam perkahwinan mereka. Tetapi semuanya adalah ketentuan Allah buat kita. Ketabahan dan keredhaan itulah yang akan menenggelamkan segala kedukaan dan memancarkan segala kecantikan dalaman seorang wanita. Walau diuji seberat manapun, kesabaran adalah milik wanita. Itulah diantara kecantikan wanita dalam alam perkahwinan mereka.
Wanita, wanita.....di dalam alam perkahwinan ini sememangnya banyak lagi penerokaan yang harus dilakukan. Banyak lagi ruang yang perlu diisi. Banyak lagi emosi yang perlu dijelajahi. Suami...segala-galanya dalam dunia isteri. Jadikanlah suami sebagai teman yang paling setia dan paling karib dalam hidup kita. Lihatlah suami bukan sebagai hak milik kekal kita. Lihatlah sang suami sebagai penilai kita di dunia ini. Individu yang akan menilai segala tingkah laku dan personaliti kita sebagai wanita. Indahnya kita sebagai isteri maka cantiklah segala alam rumahtangga itu. Keraplah menilai kembali diri sendiri sebagai wanita, isteri dan ibu dalam perkahwinan. Iye la..kadang kala suami menilai dan memberi teguran yang melampau-lampau terhadap diri kita. Banyak yang tak kena terutamanya di awal usia perkahwinan. Tetapi wanita yang bijak akal fikirannya dan cantik hati dan jiwanya, akan tahu caranya untuk menangani segala teguran walaupun kadangkala teguran itu amat menyakitkan hati. Kan sudah diketahui, kesabaran yang teramat itu ada dalam diri seorang wanita berbanding lelaki. Jadi terokailah sikap sabar itu. Cari ia dalam diri kita sebagai seorang wanita.
Jadikanlah segala cabaran dalam perkahwinan itu sebagai pengalaman dan ilmu pengetahuan yang Allah berikan. Tiada pengalaman yang lebih bermakna selain dari apa yang Allah dah tentukan kepada kita. Terimalah segalanya dengan redha, sabar, ikhlas dan jujur semata-mata untuk mendapat keberkatan dari suami dan juga dariNYA. InsyaAllah...kecantikan perkahwinan itu akan terserlah...
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